Resources compiled by Julie Lythcott-Haims, June 2023

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1. My 2016 TED Talk on the harm of overparenting.

2. 2020 Article in The Atlantic summarizing leading research out of Yale on the role parents can inadvertently play in fomenting anxiety in their children.

3. My 2021 article about over-accommodating my son’s fears, to his detriment.

4. A 2022 podcast episode featuring my adult son Sawyer and me reflecting on his neurodivergence journey.

5. My books

   • Your Turn: How to Be an Adult

   • How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

   • Real American: A Memoir

6. Books I recommend for parents of neurodivergent kids/kids with learning differences

   • Thinking Differently: An Inspiring Guide for Parents of Children with Learning Disabilities, by David Flink

   • Driven to Distraction, by Edward (Ned) Hallowell

   • Answers to Distraction, by Ned Hallowell

   • Delivered from Distraction, by Ned Hallowell

   • You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy?!, by Kate Kelly and Peggy Ramundo

7. Parenting books I recommend generally

   • 12 Simple Secrets Moms Know, by Michele Borba

   • The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, by Jessica Lahey

   • The Bottom Line for Baby, by Tina Payne Bryson

   • Building Moral Intelligence, by Michele Borba

   • The Curse of the Good Girl, by Rachel Simmons

   • Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World, by Debbie Reber

   • DOABLE: The Girls' Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything, by Debbie Reber

   • The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents, by Lisa Damour

   • End Peer Cruelty, Build Empathy, by Michele Borba

   • Enough As She Is: How to Help Girls Move Beyond Impossible Standards of Success to Live Healthy, Happy, and Fulfilling Lives, by Rachel Simmons

   • The Gift of Failure: How the Best parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, by Jessica Lahey

   • The Good News About Bad Behavior, Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever – And What to Do About It, by Katherine Reynolds Lewis

   • Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World, by Devorah Heitner

   • Happy Campers: 9 Summer Camp Secrets for Raising Kids Who Become Thriving Adults, by Audrey Monke

   • The Happy Kid Handbook, by Katie Hurley

   • Middle School Matters: The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond - and How Parents Can Help, by Phyllis Fagell

   • Middle School Superpowers, by Phyllis Fagell

   • Minimalist Parenting, by Christine Koh

   • Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America, by Nefertiti Austin

   • No Drama Discipline, by Tina Payne Bryson

   • No More Mean Girls, by Katie Hurley

   • Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, by Rachel Simmons

   • The Power of Showing Up, by Tina Payne Bryson

   • The Price of Privilege, by Madeline Levine

   • Ready or Not: Preparing Our Kids to Thrive in an Uncertain and Rapidly Changing World, by Madeline Levine

   • Screenwise, by Devorah Heitner

   • The Self-Driven Child, by Ned Johnson

   • The Stress-Buster Workbook for Kids, by Katie Hurley

   • Teach Your Children Well, by Madeline Levine

   • Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine, by Michele Borba

   • Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls, by Lisa Damour

   • UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in our All-About-Me-World, by Michele Borba

   • Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood, by Lisa Damour

   • What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson

   • The Whole-Brain Child, by Tina Payne Bryson

   • The Yes Brain, by Tina Payne Bryson